As you might imagine, life is not very “normal” for us right now as we progress through Jess’ recovery from open-heart surgery. He usually manages most of the domestic stuff of our life, while I handle the business stuff. It’s been a rather abrupt shift to suddenly be doing both. Of course, I did do that in my former marriage, but that was over 20 years ago – not so easy now.
Jess is still at the stage of needing a lot of sleep to heal. He’s up for a couple of hours, then napping for a couple. I initially tried to catch up on everything that has been sitting these past few weeks. Then a friend said, “just like when you have a new baby in the house, you sleep when they sleep.” And my mother said, “don’t worry that the kitchen floor needs washing. Do only the things you must do right now and ignore the rest.” Boy, talk about upsetting my inner perfectionist! Didn’t think I needed outside permission, but obviously, I did.
I guess I'm still a work in progress...
I’ve also needed more sleep lately, some of it likely from the upset we’ve experienced, but I am also reminded that it’s winter…easy to forget in San Diego. The body responds to less light, the colder temperatures (relatively speaking), the yin time of year, lower energy, with the urge to hibernate, hence the need for more naps to keep us fueled. Research shows that a 20 to 30-minute nap in the afternoon reduces mistakes and accidents, improves memory, lowers blood pressure, promotes less irritability, better focus and moods. Repeat after me, “naps are good!” (This is me giving you permission, just in case you need it.)
Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is take a break and do something physical like a few yoga cat-cows or down-dog, or a quick walk. Jess is supposed to walk 30 minutes a day, but it can be in 5-minute intervals throughout the day. Now that he’s able to walk ½ way around the block, I’ve been going with him. It’s surprising how much even that little break can help re-set and re-energize. I’ve also been doing this 20-minute purge and tonify qigong practice every morning. It’s gentle, requires no props, very little space, and the first 3 or 4 exercises have really expanded my range of motion: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3GtFp6sz5zM
“Always be willing to be surprised. Tomorrow is still being created…” ~Sonia Choquette
I'm learning more about my art, and from my art, every day. It's not so much a matter of skill or practice... mostly it's a shift in perspective, a way of shaping how I look at and exist in the world.
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